

I don’t. I’m saying it’s really hard to tell why people aren’t doing something without putting in a lot of effort.
If someone says no to an offered glass of red wine at dinner, it can be very hard to tell why. They could be an oenophile, and it’s not good enough. They could be a former alcoholic not wanting to fall off the wagon. They could be pregnant. They could just prefer white. They could be practicing moderation and not taking a second glass. They could be a designated driver. They could recognise the vintner as one who supports a cause with which they disagree. It could be for some other reason not mentioned here. It could even be true they really want it but don’t want to be seen wanting it, or don’t want to take one glass because what they really want is the bottle and it just feels better to say no to the whole thing rather than get less than what they want, or they don’t want to ruin their ability to enjoy really shitty wine by tasting better wine, and so on, and so on, so they say they don’t want it even when that’s not strictly true.
You wouldn’t know without digging in and expending a lot of time and effort. The same applies to those ‘milestones.’ We can see people without them, but it’s not obvious in what ratios the big group of ‘people over age XX who aren’t homeowners’ can be divided as to ‘why.’ I’d like to know, but I don’t have several million dollars to send out swarms of researchers.
When someone is telling him how great and wonderful and smart and clever and chosen-by-god and handsome and wise and legitimate and righteous and not criminally liable and wealthy they think he is?