Some people see “free stuff”, and assume that it’s now open season on wasting OP’s time.

It’s a good way to kill any enthusiasm. Imagine your kid made a spaghetti portrait as a gift for you and instead of just accepting it you asked, “but what exactly did you do differently from all kids on the block?”

Why? Why ask for this from the creator?

If someone can create new software and offer it for free, they should not also be expected to also create a comprehensive analysis of what other people did and list of differences.

Just take it or leave it, it’s that simple. No need to act as if you’re trying to waste some door-to-door salesman’s time.

Edit: I expected some downvotes but not that many.

To my defense, the question in this thread is “you could elaborate what exactly you did different than all the others”. Look, I’m not a native English speaker either but I feel we could agree that is still pretty far away from simply being curious about design choices or “what led you to create this” sort of exploratory question.

I might have overreacted, though, so sorry for that.

While the term “rubber duck debugging” typically involves explaining the code to an inanimate object, in this case, you’ve been using me […]

…well… that’s an awkward moment of silence…

I mean, the guy has some good points (and a good microphone and a radio voice) but I don’t think the first video you linked is very well done, especially the intro. Starting with “this is the most important video because it’s going to tell you something that nobody tells you” is a great way to sound …kind of like a narcissistic crackpot.

E.g. the one with 3800 lines is pretty good. (BTW I realized already subbed to his channel earlier…)

I love Christopher Okhravi’s take on inheritance:

Only Use Inheritance If You Want Both of These

Yeah, I phrased it weirdly, but that’s what I meant.

Just a follow-up with what I use now.

As a replacement, I ended up setting up Nextcloud AIO container set and so far the experience has been pretty good. I do occasionally have to go and do the update manually but the AIO interface makes it pretty straightforward.

The limitation is that I don’t have a very strong machine to host it. I have cheap VPS with only few gigs of RAM so I could give 2G to the nextcloud machine, which prevents me from enabling the more resource-hungry features, on the other hand the base NextCloud with caldav/carddav (which really is all I need) works fine.

Unfortunately later I learned that for some reason, somehow (surely my mistake), the only full copy of my dad’s contacts was at the nextcloud instance, so that collection was the “hostage”. Far more sadly, my dad deceased earlier this year, so in a weird irony when I received bill this time, the sad fact enabled me to put this all behind myself, so today I just canceled the service and goodbye.